Trip?

For the last 15 years or so my sister and I have always spend the holidays with my mom and her family. This year my dad wanted to spend the holidays with us and invited us for a trip. We were planning to fly in Miami on December 24th and come back home on January the 3rd. My sister will be off school, and both Ale and I asked for sometime off from work. Then my dad had the brilliant idea of inviting my mom along with us…

(If I recalled the last time I travel with her for 5 days, which was last year, on the 2nd day I called Ale crying cause I could not bare to be around her any longer. For everything I did the way I dressed, or whatever I said she had a comment, argument, or disapproval.)

I decided to call my dad and ask him to uninvited her from the trip, he went on saying “your mom is a completely new person, and she has changed so much…..Laura you should give her a chance…” And even though I tried to explained myself his final comment was that if I didn’t want her on the trip, I needed to be the one who call her and uninvited her.

And so I did!!! I practice before hand exactly what I was going to say to my mom… I didn’t want her to pull her “victim card” again on me. I practice all the way back home on the car. I even practiced in the kitchen will preparing dinner… I really thought I had prepared myself for this conversation. But I was so naive….not only did she used her victim card again, but she expressed her deepest feeling towards me. Among some of her most memorable comments are: “I’m an ungrateful daughter, I’m a liar, she’s ashamed of me and my life/decisions, and of course…. I’m a sinner”. I’m guessing we will not be traveling together anytime soon, huh?